I talk to myself.
No, not out loud.
Hmmm wait. Maybe sometimes.
But what I mean by this is that we all talk to ourselves. Everyday. In our minds.
We hear our own voice more than we hear the voices of others. It is constant.
When we get up in the morning. While showering. While eating breakfast. While studying. While getting ready for bed.
Our thoughts are our voices.
Today, I realized something.
My self-talk is horrible.
If I were to add up all the positive thoughts about myself, my situations, my day I would have a pretty small number.
Whereas the negative talk would fill a room.
“Get up now. You are gonna be late. Why do you always do this.”
“You are never going to learn this material. Why are you even doing this in the first place?”
“You procrastinated again. Are you serious? What is wrong with you?”
“No. Don’t wear that it looks stupid on you.”
Maybe it is just me. But I can bet there are many of us whose thoughts about oneself are more negative than positive.
When I look back on my childhood this was definitely not the case. My thoughts were something like this:
“If I practice I can totally be a professional soccer player.”
“I like waking up in the morning. Dad makes good breakfast.”
“I like taking breaks from my homework. I know I will get it done later.”
It is very interesting to me that as a child my self talk was mostly positive. I saw opportunity rather than failure. My motivation was new possibility not new failure.
Christ says it in the Bible. We need to be like children. We need that type of faith in ourselves and in Our Lord. Negative self talk is only pushing us from Him.
When I was on the playground in elementary school. I had to jump off the ledge and reach for the monkey bars. The only way I did this was to remind myself: You can do this. You are capable.”
Friends, I am asking you today this question. How can you make a leap of faith when you don’t even trust yourself to jump?
Today, my internal dialogue becomes different. My you cants will become you wills. My self hatred will become self confidence. My view of failure will become a view of opportunity.
Try it out. Let’s make the jump together.